Attachment and Burnout: When Insecurity Drives Overwork
When Burnout Isn’t Just About Work. Burnout is often framed as a workload problem. But for many, the deeper question is not how much they work, but why they cannot stop. Anxious attachment, rooted in fear of rejection and a need for reassurance, can shape how we relate to work.
The Authenticity Cost: When Living True to Yourself Looks Like Failure to Others
Spring has sprung in the Northern Hemisphere and there's momentum in the air. Goals are sharpened. Progress is measured. It can feel like the world is asking, "Are you moving fast enough?" And quietly, some people are making choices that don't look like progress at all. They're stepping away from impressive roles. They're choosing fewer […]
Reparenting and the Needs That Went Unmet
Many people reach adulthood with a quiet sense that something’s off. Life might look functional or
even successful, yet underneath there’s a low level hum of emotional hunger, self doubt, or
tiredness that doesn’t quite add up. Often this isn’t because something obviously traumatic
happened, but because something essential quietly didn’t.
Reparenting yourself is the practice of giving yourself now what you didn’t reliably receive then.
Healing Your Inner Critic
Many people think their inner critic is just their personality - a voice that pushes them to do better, try harder, or avoid mistakes. But when that voice is harsh, shaming, or unforgiving, it’s often not coming from who you are now; it’s coming from who you had to be to survive. The inner critic is not something we are born with- it forms in relationship. As children, we learn who we are through how others respond to us. When care is conditional, unpredictable, or critical, children adapt. They learn to monitor themselves closely. They become hyper-aware of what’s acceptable and what isn’t, […]
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